He's just not that into you ...

Yeah, i know that the movie has been out awhile, and just came out to dvd .. BUT i finally got to watch it.
I thought it was a good movie -- only because i felt like it gave an accurate portrayal of what relationships are like nowadays. If you haven't seen it or want to see it then don't read further .. i will be talking about part of it.
There is one couple (out of about 6) in the movie that really struck out to me.
We first meet the guy when he is at the grocery store, he meets an attractive young woman and they flirt -- then he comes out and says he is married, and that he shouldn't be flirting with her, but he still gives her his card (phone #) and to make matters worse, he continues to meet with this girl -- takes the yoga class she teaches, hangs out with her -- til finally he sleeps with her. He loves the passion and excitement of this "wrong" relationship -- Throughout the movie you can tell he has a conscience but it all goes out the window anytime he's around her Its like he's trying to do the right thing but you just get the impression that he doesn't really care. Meanwhile the wife is thinking something is up -- but she thinks he is smoking when he said he isn't. Then he confesses that he cheated on his wife, but yet still continues to see the other woman. For some background info about this couple, You find out they had gotten married b/c she had given him an ultimatum, they either got married, or that was the end of their relationship. He really want to get married but did anyway.
I couldn't really understand the husband. It bothered me b/c if he didn't love his wife and want to spend the rest of his life with her, why did he marry her?? Did he really love her but the excitement of the other women get the best of him? He kept saying "no i shouldn't b/c i'm married" -- but did he really believe that? And what about the other woman? she didn't seem to stop chasing after him after he said he was married -- in my opinion she didn't really help the situation. what does that say for her?
As for his wife, she finally had the last straw when she found cigarettes in his pants pocket (after he had told her several times that he was not smoking) -- she had had it with his lies. she wanted to work through it. He didn't. So they ended up getting divorced and the other woman dumped him (not sure why, i want to think its b/c she finally realized that he was married and what she was doing was wrong).
The movie bothered me b/c i couldn't really tell what the husband wanted -- to me it seemed like they never should have gotten married. But they did, and that is a commitment -- made before God. Its not something to take lightly -- its a lifetime commitment. I don't think people see marriage like that anymore -- they go in thinking -- oh its ok. i can get a divorce/annulment if it doesn't work out -- WRONG!! once you are married you are married, you work through things, you forgive each other. You're together in good times and bad .. thats how God designed it. I feel that many relationships fail nowadays b/c couples won't admit the sin in their life, they won't face it -- they rather just keep on doing what they know is wrong and not face the reality. It really comes to show that having God in your life is not what's "popular" right now. that's just sad.

FAILURE!!

we got home from work the other day .. and our new fence didn't stop Roscoe. He was waiting for us when we got home. what are we going to do??

we rebuilt our fence

well. we first built our picket fence to keep daisy in the back half of our back yard. then we got snowball, who could fit through the pickets, so we put chicken wire up. then we got roscoe who decided he could climb the fence -- hopefully we have fixed it enough for them to ALL stay in the back.

new doggie in the house!

meet roscoe!
he's a 1 yr old mini husky. he looks a lot like Daisy, don't you think??

womens retreat 2009

well, a little over a week ago I went on a women's retreat with our church. it was awesome! i have never been on a retreat, and i must say i was very impressed. the hotel/conference center we stayed at was a part of Southestern Baptist Seminary and it was amazing! they took very good care of me and the other 90 or so women that were there. Our speaker was also great! I definitely learned a lot to take home with me from them and also our breakout sessions. The scripture we focused on was Matthew 11:28-30 "finding rest." i certainly came out of that retreat feeling well rested. It was definitely not physically b/c i don't think i got more than 5 hrs a sleep each night -- what do you expect from a group of women?? we like to chat/play games. :) it was spiritually. and I will continue to pray that i keep the conviction that i felt during that weekend to keep me going in the right direction.

favorite time of the year ...

growing up (and still today) people ask you what is your favorite time of the year? i used to say winter b/c i love the snow. but after living in texas for as long as i have, if i ever went to where it was snowing i'm not sure i would like it. or maybe i would love it and never want to go home. :) anyway .. since daniel i bought our house and have starting planting trees, flowers, cati, etc. I will say i have to change my answer to SPRING! its so much fun going out and looking at all the new growth on our plants! i will post pictures later b/c we do already have trees bloomin and flowers sprouting! its so cool. it definately makes you sit back for a moment and think how awesome God is for designing things this way!

babies, babies everywhere!!

no, i'm not pregnant, :) But it seems like everywhere i look, another friend is pregnant! Don't get me wrong, i'm very happy for them. Daniel and i aren't thinking about having kids, but if we were starting to think about it, i wouldn't want to right now b/c everyone else is!! is that wrong? I don't like doing what everyone else is doing, and right now, it seems like everyone else is having a baby! I guess it just makes me feel old too, to know that we are old enough now to have kids. part of me still just wants to be a selfish person. The other part still just wants to get to know my husband better. the first few years of our marriage was rough, and so its like we are starting over.
I just don't want to wait too long b/c i don't want to be pregnant by myself. I would like at least one other person to be pregnant with me! If all these couples are having one now, they probably will be out for another year or two, right? if they even want more than 1 kid?? some of the couples are on their 2nd child .. maybe they won't want any more after that. It is nice to know that i will have lots of people to help me out whenever i do get pregnant b/c they will have the experience, right?
man ... there are going to be a lot of new babies by the years end!

4 day work week

well, daniel and i started a 4 day work week. meaning we work 40 hrs per week in 4 days instead of 5. So far it has made for a long week, but it's so worth it to have fridays off!!
I work 730am-6pm mon-thurs off on friday
Daniel works 715am-6pm mon, wed-friday . he is off on tues.
it does stink that we have different days off, but daniel's changes every month, mine is stuck for 6 months.
we are still working out the kinks. but so far so good.

murder mystery party.

ok. so this was back on nov 4, and i'm a little late posting pics. but here are some from our sunday school classes murder mystery party. and thanks to becca for setting it all up!

bailout

i just want to say that the bailout is a stupid idea. It is not going to help anything. Why are we saving those companies that made stupid decisions?? they are the ones that made loans that they knew at some point their lenders wouldn't be able to pay back (hello variable rate loans). plus they probably gave a lot of loans to those who lied on the application and didn't have enough money to begin with. Its the banks fault, and i don't think we should bail them out. Plus how is the government going to give out 700 billion dollars when they themselves are in trillions of dollars in debt?? and how is this going to make the banks learn?? this isn't going to solve ANY of our problems. how about you divide that 700 billion among the american people?? we deserve it more than the banks!! I would rather no one be able to get a loan, then get a loan that they can't pay back. It would help the american people think twice about if they really need a particular item. if you don't have the money for it, do you really need it???

current yard pics

with getting hardly any rain this summer, we sure got some about 2 weeks ago. here is the growth of our plants since the rain (a before and after pics --





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new class

Daniel and I have signed up for Sacred Marriage, a bible study class up at church. so far its been awesome. we'll keep you posted on the progress ..

I'm still alive

Just wanted to let everyone know the julian clan is still alive. :) we do not have the internet at our house anymore (mainly one extra thing to save $ on that we don't really need). So i will be checking email and stuff probably once a week. I do have a funny story (and when i get the pictures loaded onto my computer I will post them on here).

Daniel mowed the lawn yesterday -- and the dogs decided to help. Well, in the end our dogs looked like they had green socks on! it was very funny. It was more noticeable on our little white dog, Snowball, rather than daisy. :) It was pretty funny. 

have a good week! 

New Lenses

So today I went and got new lenses for my glasses. I had my eyes tested back in may but was just now able to get the money together to get them. I usually have to go ever year to get them tested, (which is usually in november) but i got to go a little longer this time. And guess what .... my eyes actually got better. I'm going to say its b/c i have graduated and no longer have my eyes in a book most nights studying/straining my eyes. But it's also weird b/c  I sit at a computer all day for work so i would think that that would strain them even worse. But who knows. 

So we went to the mall, and we ordered the lenses and they said it would take about an hr. And then they took my glasses! So for an hr Daniel and I walked around the mall. Now I'm not totally blind, but things were pretty fuzzy.  I probably looked dumb looking at things b/c everything i looked at I had to hold up to my face so I could see it. Plus if anyone I knew walked by, I wouldn't have been able to know who it was. Luckily daniel tried his best to let me know if he saw anyone we knew before we got to them and said hi. 

After our hr was up we went to get my glasses back. they adjusted them and cleaned them and thought we were good to go. we got out to the car and i realized that my lenses had a scratch on them. soooo ... we went back and dropped them off again and they said they would get a new lens and that the machine probably scratched them as they were putting them in. 

By this point daniel and i were sick of the mall so we went over to academy. we were only there about 10 min when the glasses place called me back. they had put the old lens in instead of the new one! Daniel and I had a good chuckle and left academy and went and got my glasses (again). and this time it was done right! :)  So I am now able to see clearly and I am glad. :) 

finally!!

it finally rained!! yay!! i don't think it's rained for at least 3 weeks, so this is nice! My "drought resistant" plants were started to look like they needed water! I guess I would be too if it had been 100 the past week with no rain. 

oh well.

yay for rain!

fun at the gun range

I feel weird for saying this, but our church had a father and son shoot out day at the gun range today. And even though daniel and I do not have any children, we do own 2 guns and wanted to go shoot, and they said we were more than welcome to come out. I haven't shot in a while, and I did have fun. I'm really glad I have never had to use the gun for home protection (which is why we have them in the first place). Here are some pics:

An awesome shot that daniel took of me shooting. if you look closely you can see the clip flying out. 

Sorry this and a couple of others are sideways -- but this is Ryan. 

and this is DJ

Daniel is waiting patiently for his turn. 

Kenny and his son Josh (who didn't seem to interested in shooting) 

Jayme and his daughter Hailey.

Kert, watching Matt and Kert's brother. 

Kert showing everyone how its done. :) 

allergies, allergies, allergies

Well, my whole life I have struggled on and off with my allergies. In the past year or two  it just seemed to get worse. There were two weeks last month that I just couldn't really do anything. I was just so exhausted. Thursday I went and got my allergies tested. I'm pretty much allergic to every type of tree, grass, weed that is native to texas (also, house dust/mites) -- but i'm not allergic to any food or my 2 dogs. :) So I started to get allergy shots this week. My first one was yesterday, and I feel a little bit better. I know that I will have to go a couple of more times for the effect to really take place. Also they put me on clarinex d and some nose spray stuff to take as well. hopefully as I get more of the shots, I will have to take those less and less.  If anyone has any helpful suggestions on allergies, please let me know. Today I will be cleaning my house from top to bottom and hopefully that will help as well. 

Our little dog is goofy

Daniel went to let the dogs into the house, and our little dog, snowball, decided she wanted to play in the waterfall of the pond ....



 

I didn't get it

sadly, i didn't get the job i mentioned earlier. i guess i will keep on looking -- though where am i supposed to go after my alma mater denied me a job??? hmm ... 

Just a couple more yard pics