He's just not that into you ...

Yeah, i know that the movie has been out awhile, and just came out to dvd .. BUT i finally got to watch it.
I thought it was a good movie -- only because i felt like it gave an accurate portrayal of what relationships are like nowadays. If you haven't seen it or want to see it then don't read further .. i will be talking about part of it.
There is one couple (out of about 6) in the movie that really struck out to me.
We first meet the guy when he is at the grocery store, he meets an attractive young woman and they flirt -- then he comes out and says he is married, and that he shouldn't be flirting with her, but he still gives her his card (phone #) and to make matters worse, he continues to meet with this girl -- takes the yoga class she teaches, hangs out with her -- til finally he sleeps with her. He loves the passion and excitement of this "wrong" relationship -- Throughout the movie you can tell he has a conscience but it all goes out the window anytime he's around her Its like he's trying to do the right thing but you just get the impression that he doesn't really care. Meanwhile the wife is thinking something is up -- but she thinks he is smoking when he said he isn't. Then he confesses that he cheated on his wife, but yet still continues to see the other woman. For some background info about this couple, You find out they had gotten married b/c she had given him an ultimatum, they either got married, or that was the end of their relationship. He really want to get married but did anyway.
I couldn't really understand the husband. It bothered me b/c if he didn't love his wife and want to spend the rest of his life with her, why did he marry her?? Did he really love her but the excitement of the other women get the best of him? He kept saying "no i shouldn't b/c i'm married" -- but did he really believe that? And what about the other woman? she didn't seem to stop chasing after him after he said he was married -- in my opinion she didn't really help the situation. what does that say for her?
As for his wife, she finally had the last straw when she found cigarettes in his pants pocket (after he had told her several times that he was not smoking) -- she had had it with his lies. she wanted to work through it. He didn't. So they ended up getting divorced and the other woman dumped him (not sure why, i want to think its b/c she finally realized that he was married and what she was doing was wrong).
The movie bothered me b/c i couldn't really tell what the husband wanted -- to me it seemed like they never should have gotten married. But they did, and that is a commitment -- made before God. Its not something to take lightly -- its a lifetime commitment. I don't think people see marriage like that anymore -- they go in thinking -- oh its ok. i can get a divorce/annulment if it doesn't work out -- WRONG!! once you are married you are married, you work through things, you forgive each other. You're together in good times and bad .. thats how God designed it. I feel that many relationships fail nowadays b/c couples won't admit the sin in their life, they won't face it -- they rather just keep on doing what they know is wrong and not face the reality. It really comes to show that having God in your life is not what's "popular" right now. that's just sad.

FAILURE!!

we got home from work the other day .. and our new fence didn't stop Roscoe. He was waiting for us when we got home. what are we going to do??

we rebuilt our fence

well. we first built our picket fence to keep daisy in the back half of our back yard. then we got snowball, who could fit through the pickets, so we put chicken wire up. then we got roscoe who decided he could climb the fence -- hopefully we have fixed it enough for them to ALL stay in the back.

new doggie in the house!

meet roscoe!
he's a 1 yr old mini husky. he looks a lot like Daisy, don't you think??

womens retreat 2009

well, a little over a week ago I went on a women's retreat with our church. it was awesome! i have never been on a retreat, and i must say i was very impressed. the hotel/conference center we stayed at was a part of Southestern Baptist Seminary and it was amazing! they took very good care of me and the other 90 or so women that were there. Our speaker was also great! I definitely learned a lot to take home with me from them and also our breakout sessions. The scripture we focused on was Matthew 11:28-30 "finding rest." i certainly came out of that retreat feeling well rested. It was definitely not physically b/c i don't think i got more than 5 hrs a sleep each night -- what do you expect from a group of women?? we like to chat/play games. :) it was spiritually. and I will continue to pray that i keep the conviction that i felt during that weekend to keep me going in the right direction.

favorite time of the year ...

growing up (and still today) people ask you what is your favorite time of the year? i used to say winter b/c i love the snow. but after living in texas for as long as i have, if i ever went to where it was snowing i'm not sure i would like it. or maybe i would love it and never want to go home. :) anyway .. since daniel i bought our house and have starting planting trees, flowers, cati, etc. I will say i have to change my answer to SPRING! its so much fun going out and looking at all the new growth on our plants! i will post pictures later b/c we do already have trees bloomin and flowers sprouting! its so cool. it definately makes you sit back for a moment and think how awesome God is for designing things this way!

babies, babies everywhere!!

no, i'm not pregnant, :) But it seems like everywhere i look, another friend is pregnant! Don't get me wrong, i'm very happy for them. Daniel and i aren't thinking about having kids, but if we were starting to think about it, i wouldn't want to right now b/c everyone else is!! is that wrong? I don't like doing what everyone else is doing, and right now, it seems like everyone else is having a baby! I guess it just makes me feel old too, to know that we are old enough now to have kids. part of me still just wants to be a selfish person. The other part still just wants to get to know my husband better. the first few years of our marriage was rough, and so its like we are starting over.
I just don't want to wait too long b/c i don't want to be pregnant by myself. I would like at least one other person to be pregnant with me! If all these couples are having one now, they probably will be out for another year or two, right? if they even want more than 1 kid?? some of the couples are on their 2nd child .. maybe they won't want any more after that. It is nice to know that i will have lots of people to help me out whenever i do get pregnant b/c they will have the experience, right?
man ... there are going to be a lot of new babies by the years end!