He's just not that into you ...

Yeah, i know that the movie has been out awhile, and just came out to dvd .. BUT i finally got to watch it.
I thought it was a good movie -- only because i felt like it gave an accurate portrayal of what relationships are like nowadays. If you haven't seen it or want to see it then don't read further .. i will be talking about part of it.
There is one couple (out of about 6) in the movie that really struck out to me.
We first meet the guy when he is at the grocery store, he meets an attractive young woman and they flirt -- then he comes out and says he is married, and that he shouldn't be flirting with her, but he still gives her his card (phone #) and to make matters worse, he continues to meet with this girl -- takes the yoga class she teaches, hangs out with her -- til finally he sleeps with her. He loves the passion and excitement of this "wrong" relationship -- Throughout the movie you can tell he has a conscience but it all goes out the window anytime he's around her Its like he's trying to do the right thing but you just get the impression that he doesn't really care. Meanwhile the wife is thinking something is up -- but she thinks he is smoking when he said he isn't. Then he confesses that he cheated on his wife, but yet still continues to see the other woman. For some background info about this couple, You find out they had gotten married b/c she had given him an ultimatum, they either got married, or that was the end of their relationship. He really want to get married but did anyway.
I couldn't really understand the husband. It bothered me b/c if he didn't love his wife and want to spend the rest of his life with her, why did he marry her?? Did he really love her but the excitement of the other women get the best of him? He kept saying "no i shouldn't b/c i'm married" -- but did he really believe that? And what about the other woman? she didn't seem to stop chasing after him after he said he was married -- in my opinion she didn't really help the situation. what does that say for her?
As for his wife, she finally had the last straw when she found cigarettes in his pants pocket (after he had told her several times that he was not smoking) -- she had had it with his lies. she wanted to work through it. He didn't. So they ended up getting divorced and the other woman dumped him (not sure why, i want to think its b/c she finally realized that he was married and what she was doing was wrong).
The movie bothered me b/c i couldn't really tell what the husband wanted -- to me it seemed like they never should have gotten married. But they did, and that is a commitment -- made before God. Its not something to take lightly -- its a lifetime commitment. I don't think people see marriage like that anymore -- they go in thinking -- oh its ok. i can get a divorce/annulment if it doesn't work out -- WRONG!! once you are married you are married, you work through things, you forgive each other. You're together in good times and bad .. thats how God designed it. I feel that many relationships fail nowadays b/c couples won't admit the sin in their life, they won't face it -- they rather just keep on doing what they know is wrong and not face the reality. It really comes to show that having God in your life is not what's "popular" right now. that's just sad.